Some journeys are sacred, especially the ones that break us before they build us. When you are in the middle of such a journey, you’re confused, weary and still searching for the light, it may feel natural to talk about it. Sometimes you feel drawn to others who are also trying to find their way. You want to process. You want to connect. But connection without clarity can become confusion.
Read that once more please – connection without clarity can become confusion! You cannot give directions when you are still lost.
We often turn to people who are going through the same thing as us, hoping that shared pain will bring shared strength. But pain does not always make us wise. In fact, it can make us reckless if we speak too soon. Imagine being in a sinking boat and reaching for someone whose boat is sinking too. You may hold hands, but neither of you will find the shore.
When Jesus said, “Can the blind lead the blind? Will they not both fall into a pit?” (Luke 6:39), He was talking about wisdom. About waiting. About knowing when your story is ready to help someone else.
There is beauty in silence. There is holiness in healing. And there is power in waiting until your scars have closed before you share them.
Let me tell you three things I have learned:
- Help is most effective when it comes from someone who has made it through
The person who has walked through fire and come out refined can guide others with truth and testimony. If you are still walking through that fire, let others hold your hand, but do not feel pressured to lead anyone else just yet.
- You do not owe the world your process
You are allowed to heal in private. You do not need to package your pain into a social media caption or a conversation before it has even settled in your spirit. Let God do the deep work first. You will speak when the time is right, and your words will carry more weight because of it.
- Protect your journey, but do not hide your destination
You are not being secretive. You are being wise. When the breakthrough comes, when the light pierces the dark, that is when your voice will matter most. People do not need your confusion; they need your clarity. They need to know not just that God is good, but how you came to believe that. They need to know how you made it through.
Psalm 66:16 says, “Come and hear, all you who fear God, and I will tell what He has done for my soul.” That is testimony. That is what brings healing to others. But it must come from a healed place. From the mountain, not the valley. From the peace after the storm, not the panic inside it.
So if you are still in the middle of your journey, breathe. Rest. Walk slowly with God. You are not behind. You are not forgotten. And one day, when the path becomes clear and the tears have dried, your voice will matter more than you could ever imagine.
Let God finish the story before you try to explain it.
With Love,
Amanda
